The magic of being well really lies in the PsychoSpiritual Quadrant. It is the key to healing, but also the way that we live our best life and truly experience wellness. There are four main keys that allow us to tap into the power of the PsychoSpiritual Quadrant.
Four Keys to the PsychoSpiritual Quadrant
- Healing the Past
- Being Present
- Being Intentional
Healing the Past
Each of us has experienced “drama and trauma” at some point in our life. In order to be healthy in our physical bodies, in our minds, and to live our best lives, we need to heal that drama and trauma.
After we experience trauma, it is easy to get stuck in it. One of the signs of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder is reliving the trauma, even when the person is in a completely safe space. We need to heal the trauma so that we can move forward in our lives and not continue to be stuck in that place.
The way to heal the trauma is to go into your heart. Spend time in your heart, dig through the layers, and find out what is keeping you from living your happiest and most hopeful life. Take the time to heal those things. It is like cleaning out your closet. You go into your closet and pull out the clothing that isn’t working for you which gives you space for your good clothes and to bring in more. In the same way, you clean out your heart and then fill it up with good stuff.
Gratitude is an important practice as we work to connect with our Psychospiritual Quadrant. It unites us with our spiritual side and the greater power in the universe. It helps us to have and maintain a positive perspective. Troy Nash became an expert in positivity as he decided to infect social media with a positive message every day for an entire year. He says, “It almost seems that in the world today being positive is more the exception than the rule, and that bothers me. And it should bother all of us.”
Changing our outlook from negative to positive can be as simple as practicing gratitude by taking time to say or write the things that we are grateful for. You can bring your entire family into a gratitude practice with the “I love” game. Take turns saying, “I love ____” and fill in the blank with something you are grateful for.
Have you ever gotten in the car and driven to your destination, and when you parked, you looked around and thought, “How did I get here?” We’ve all had the experience of auto-pilot driving. But here’s the important question, how much of your life is on autopilot?
We need to find ways and time to be really present in our lives.
The first way be present in your life is to find time to really connect. You could connect by going for a walk with a loved one, or playing with your children or your pets. When you are spending time with your family or your tribe, work to be fully present with them. Give them your best self by putting away your phone and your worries about your other commitments.
The second way to be present is to practice self-awareness. Randy Floyd is a Licensed Specialist Clinical Social Worker and the Founder of Midwest Anxiety. He says that the “number one super skill is self-awareness. When I know what I think, how I feel, and what I do (my behaviors), then I can start to take control of the things I am struggling with.” Self-awareness requires you to be present with your thoughts and feelings, to pay attention to them, and to understand them and yourself.
The third way to be present is to practice mindfulness or meditation. Jennifer Robinson is an instructor at Oxford Middle. She says, “When people hear about mindfulness or meditation it feels overwhelming. It seems like oh my gosh, it’s another thing on the to-do list. It’s not that. It’s actually the absence of doing. It is being and participating in just where you are.” Meditation is a wonderful way for us to be present in the moment.
Many of the ways to be present overlap and help us to also be intentional. If we have decided that we want to be present during dinner with our family, it will help if we decide to be intentional, if we create a plan for eliminating the distractions of our devices, and if we intentionally set up a new routine that helps us to talk and connect with each other.
Being intentional is also part of living with purpose. It’s important for people to have a purpose. Your purpose can be whatever speaks to you. It may be a purpose of being the best mother you can be. It may be a purpose of being a physician or being the best assistant you can be. It could be the purpose of showing up on the planet and bringing good energy. No matter what you view as your purpose, living with a purpose helps you to be intentional and connects you to your PsychoSpiritual side.
Falling in Love With Yourself
Each of the keys of the PsychoSpiritual Quadrant lead to falling in love with yourself. Getting well starts with falling in love with yourself. Not in an egotistical way, thinking that you are more amazing than anyone else, but from a way that you say, I matter. In order to realize that we matter, we have to understand that we are valuable.
Falling in love with yourself may lead you to heal your past. It may lead you to drink more water each day. It may lead you to build a tribe. There are a variety of small changes in each quadrant that can be made to improve our health, but we need to connect to ourselves and feel that we matter in order to make those small changes.
You do matter. You are enough. You are designed by a master creator. And you can tap into your purpose, you just have to listen.